Weird lessons I’ve learned after losing my daughters:
There are people I should have been closer to
There are people I should not have been so close with
People get tired of hearing about your loss
People don’t want you to mention your children unless they are living
Family isn’t always supportive
People you expect to be there for you sometimes aren’t
People you never expected to care, do
People can say very hurtful things when trying to help
People move on around you
People stop asking/caring if you are ok
Relationships (of all kinds) change.
Some people are so curious about death, they ask really inappropriate questions
Even other mother’s who have lost a child can be hurtful
If you don’t have any other children other than your angels, other mothers of loss STILL might not see you as a mom just because you haven’t raised a child
The list, I’m sure, goes on but I’m tired.